8 Signs That a Man Might Be Great in Bed

  So let's say that, as a regular listener of our podcast, you are already familiar with what makes one great in bed (if not, head over to this earlier episode, which reveals how to be an amazing lover and serves as a prequel) and feel confident about your skills. But what now? How do you actually let potential lovers know about this? If simply saying so isn't an option (please don't brag about your skills as a lover - this is one of the points we discuss), are there any alternative ways of signaling that you're great in bed? What things do women (assuming you're a man who sleeps with women) watch out for? How to withstand the pressure to increase your value as a lover by bragging? And on the flipside - what are [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:08:30+00:00 October 24th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

What’s Empathy Got to Do with Anything?

  Fun fact: I am fascinated by pickup artists. I write about them, I read them, and I even completed detailed research on pickup artist books for my Master’s degree. Sometimes, I even agree with them. You may have heard of a traditional pickup artist named Richard La Ruina, a.k.a. Gambler. This year, he released two games on Steam (Super Seducer in March and Super Seducer 2 in September). He’s the author of The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want. Now, Super Seducer is hilariously bad, and at times it strays into crude and unhelpful territory. But, I think La Ruina really has a good idea - some parts about dating, sex, and relationships - like understanding body language - can be well-taught through this medium. And, while his book The Natural does [...]

By | 2018-10-30T11:43:15+00:00 October 22nd, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments

Sex Robots: Are They the Future?

In Episode 21 of the Get Sex Smart podcast, Dr. Valeria and I talk about a fascinating and controversial topic: sex robots. This topic has been making the headlines (and significant progress) for a while now, but are sex robots really the future of sex? First with the very realistic sex dolls, and through today’s evolution of those dolls into animated robots and beyond, into true artificial intelligence – we discuss recent developments in the field of robotics as well as why the adult industry seems to be at the forefront of this technological revolution. Moreover, drawing on our professional experience and knowledge, we wonder what this technological advancement might mean for our sex lives. What void would (do) these sex robots fill and do they have the potential to actually help people? Can sex with a [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:10:08+00:00 October 17th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

What If She’s Busy?

  I live in a city, full of ambitious city people. Most of my clients are ambitious city people who want to have vibrant careers and smokin’ hot love lives.   It’s no surprise then that a question I get asked in my practice - A LOT - is:   Sarah, I met this woman and she’s great! We’ve been on a couple of dates, got on really well, and I really like her. But, I’ve asked to set up another date a few times now and she keeps saying “I’m busy.”   I’ve done everything you said - I suggested a day to meet, a time, and something to do, and same response. What gives? Is she really busy?   I decided to make a YouTube video about this and address this one head on, [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:10:26+00:00 October 15th, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments

Fetishes: A Primer for the Newbies and the Curious

How much do you know about fetishes? Sure, the world of kink and fetishism has certainly become more mainstream in recent years (looking at you, 50 Shades of Grey!). But it can still be hard to work out what is "normal" - that is - what is common. Regardless of whether or not you are kinky yourself, you may be surprised to learn just how many of us have some sort of sexual fetish. What is more, even when we take a look at only the most popular fetishes, the variety can be truly astounding! So join me and Dr. Valeria as we dive into the world of fetishes and kink, sploshing and golden showers. In this episode of the Get Sex Smart Podcast, we'll talk about how common fetishes truly are, and give you a breakdown [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:10:39+00:00 October 10th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

Why Do the Other Guys Get All the Girls?

I hear this a lot, and I think it’s a legit question - why do the other guys get all the girls?   What’s so great about them? What makes them better than me?   I think there’s a lot to this question, in particular what I think is being asked here is more specifically why do other men attract women as sexual partners and I don’t.   The TL;DR is embodiment. Say what? California crunchy much? Stick with me and check out this week’s Ask Sex Coach Sarah video:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gOPEfoLKFrQ&feature=youtu.be   While I don’t know enough about the “other guys” in your particular world to be able to answer this in an individualized way, I do know enough from my work to see that embodiment is one clear difference between men that attract sexual [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:10:49+00:00 October 8th, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments

How to Be an Amazing Lover

Most of us have at least at one point in our lives felt anxious about our skills in the bedroom - we want to be an amazing lover but to get stuck because we don't have the right approach and mindset. This kind of anxiety is a common feeling, especially when our expectations are distorted by supplementing inadequate (or non-existent) sex education with porn. Often, we feel that we're supposed to just naturally be good at sex, forgetting that it's a skill like any other. That's why in this episode of the Get Sex Smart podcast, together with Dr. Valeria, we sat down to dish out some expert advice on how to be an amazing lover and have great sex. Drawing on our experience as sex coaches as well as on our personal experiences, we share with [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:11:02+00:00 October 3rd, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

Analysis Paralysis

Do you suffer from Analysis Paralysis? A condition I first heard about in relation to tabletop board gamers, analysis paralysis is when you’re unable to make a move because you just can’t decide what to do. Overthinking. Perfectionism. Procrastination. Analysis paralysis shows up in many guises and in many parts of life, including dating, sex, and relationships. Sometimes, you just want to know what to do to get the desired outcome. A recipe, as it were. You know, because if you press apples, the result is ALWAYS apple juice. What’s the recipe for squeezing the juice out of life? Out of social interactions? Out of our careers? Where all that unnecessary fibre can be skipped over in favour of sweetness. I’m in my own analysis paralysis at the moment. From this decision diamond, there are so [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:11:18+00:00 October 1st, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments

Tips & Strategies for an Amazing First Date

So let's say you've met someone you like and even set up a first date (if you haven't, be sure to check out the previous episode in the series, dedicated to online dating strategies that set you up for success). You're mentally prepared to date, everything seems fine and no red flags have been raised. But what now? If you're looking for some first date tips and mistakes to avoid (or are simply feeling anxious and in need of reassurance), tune in to Episode 13 of the Get Sex Smart podcast before you head out. In this episode, Dr. Valeria and I draw on our own dating experiences and share tips and advice on how to have a great first date - from preparing for it to winding down and processing afterwards.   You will learn [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:11:46+00:00 September 26th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

How Can I Tell If She’s Into Me?

  Wouldn’t it be fucking awesome if we never had to risk rejection? Think about it - how amazing would it be to have a fool-proof way to know if someone is into you, where you could just know and then proceed to naked fun times with minimal fuss.   Unfortunately, I've got some bad news. With the exception of someone coming up to you and directly declaring their lust (and totally risking rejection in the process, I might add), there really is no fool-proof way to know on sight.   With that said, there are some general indicators that you can look for to see if someone is interested in you as a person, which I outline in this video from my Youtube channel:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ik5rAyCt3wc   Learning the basics of body language and nonverbal [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:11:54+00:00 September 24th, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments
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