Are men from Mars and women from Venus?

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.   This was a popular book when I was young, and became a bit of a catch phrase. You started to hear people saying this quite a lot in the 90s - Mars, Venus… it seemed to make sense to people.   What resonated in that idea for so many people, do you think? Was it this sense that men and women are really so different from each other? Is this why communication within relationships seems so hard?   Sometimes, it can almost feel like you are speaking a different language to your partner... Though to counterbalance that, I am a person that, more than once, has spoken a literal different language than my partner.   Any other travelers in the house?   And what I’ve observed [...]

By | 2018-11-18T23:48:58+00:00 November 19th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments

Bisexuality: Truth, Myths, and Challenges

People identified as bi+(an umbrella term which includes many non-monosexual sexual orientations, such as bisexual and pansexual) outnumber gays and lesbians. Yet their struggles can often go unmentioned and overlooked or narrowed down to experiencing homophobia. Many view bisexuality as a "lighter shade" of homosexuality or a stepping-stone towards it instead of a separate and equally valid identity. What is more, even with improving representation in the media and a rise in informative resources about bisexuality, there is still a lot of stigma as well as numerous negative stereotypes attached to this identity. Since most of us are likely to either know a bisexual person or identify as bisexual ourselves, Dr. Valeria and I decided to dedicate an entire podcast episode to the topic of bisexuality and the myths and challenges that come with it. In [...]

By | 2018-11-12T20:28:04+00:00 November 12th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

How Can You Be More Confident With Women?

Ahhhh confidence… this nebulous abstraction, this vague je ne sais quoi that some people seem to have and you wonder where you can get some.   Have you caught yourself doing that? Wondering - if only I were more confident with women, I’d feel so much better. I’d be happier and more at ease. Or maybe - if only I were more confident generally, with people.   It does seem tempting to focus on confidence, doesn’t it, given that the people that we know in our lives that experience genuine happiness all seem to have it.   The thing is, I think how can I be more confident isn’t really the question that you are asking, that any of us are asking, when we ask this.   I think the real question is: how can I [...]

By | 2018-11-05T20:05:03+00:00 November 5th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments

Four Ways of Ending Your Relationship (and How Not to Get Hurt in the Process)

  Break-ups - they're an integral part of dating and relationships and unfortunately impossible to avoid. Dating is always a bit of a challenge - especially nowadays with so much of it happening online or over text. Like most of us, you probably have some break-up stories to tell. You may have been in relationships that ended abruptly and painfully, or alternatively ones that never seemed to really have a definitive end. Maybe your partner or date started freezing you out. Or maybe they seem to have fallen off the face of the Earth altogether. Regardless of your background and personal experiences, you probably know that break-ups can suck. Whenever feelings (and the potential for hurting them) are involved, things can get a bit messy. And dealing with break-ups gracefully (no matter which side you're on) [...]

By | 2018-10-30T14:31:36+00:00 October 31st, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

How Do I Know If I’m Being Creepy?

  You’ve heard it before, I am sure. Maybe from friends, from peers, on TV, in movies.   A group of people, standing around and discussing how creepy someone was.   Maybe it was a person in a shop, or on a bus, or a friend’s bad Tinder date experience. They had to deal with a creepy person and they wound up feeling bad because of this nebulous thing called “creepiness.”   Given this, well, no one wants to come across as creepy, do they? The idea that someday, somewhere, a person that you were interested in, or went on a date with, might similarly be standing around and talking to friends about how creepy you were (or perhaps already has) is really uncomfortable.   I come with good news for you. Avoiding being perceived as [...]

By | 2018-10-30T11:47:52+00:00 October 30th, 2018|Blog|0 Comments

Getting Tested in Warsaw

If you value your health - sexual and otherwise - regular STD (or, more accurately, STI) testing is crucial. While its frequency may vary from person to person, depending on factors such as our lifestyle, preferences and risk-aversion, all sexually active folks should make room in their calendar for this check-up. However, even if one is eager to get tested regularly, they may find this area confusing and tricky to navigate. First of all, It isn't always immediately clear how to get tested efficiently or what the most budget-friendly options are. On top of that, in some areas even the healthcare providers offer little help. After all, many of us are asymptomatic and want to get tested simply to have peace of mind. And anyway, what should we even get tested for if all we want is [...]

By | 2018-10-27T15:03:09+00:00 October 27th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

8 Signs That a Man Might Be Great in Bed

  So let's say that, as a regular listener of our podcast, you are already familiar with what makes one great in bed (if not, head over to this earlier episode, which reveals how to be an amazing lover and serves as a prequel) and feel confident about your skills. But what now? How do you actually let potential lovers know about this? If simply saying so isn't an option (please don't brag about your skills as a lover - this is one of the points we discuss), are there any alternative ways of signaling that you're great in bed? What things do women (assuming you're a man who sleeps with women) watch out for? How to withstand the pressure to increase your value as a lover by bragging? And on the flipside - what are [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:08:30+00:00 October 24th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

What’s Empathy Got to Do with Anything?

  Fun fact: I am fascinated by pickup artists. I write about them, I read them, and I even completed detailed research on pickup artist books for my Master’s degree. Sometimes, I even agree with them. You may have heard of a traditional pickup artist named Richard La Ruina, a.k.a. Gambler. This year, he released two games on Steam (Super Seducer in March and Super Seducer 2 in September). He’s the author of The Natural: How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want. Now, Super Seducer is hilariously bad, and at times it strays into crude and unhelpful territory. But, I think La Ruina really has a good idea - some parts about dating, sex, and relationships - like understanding body language - can be well-taught through this medium. And, while his book The Natural does [...]

By | 2018-10-30T11:43:15+00:00 October 22nd, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments

Sex Robots: Are They the Future?

In Episode 21 of the Get Sex Smart podcast, Dr. Valeria and I talk about a fascinating and controversial topic: sex robots. This topic has been making the headlines (and significant progress) for a while now, but are sex robots really the future of sex? First with the very realistic sex dolls, and through today’s evolution of those dolls into animated robots and beyond, into true artificial intelligence – we discuss recent developments in the field of robotics as well as why the adult industry seems to be at the forefront of this technological revolution. Moreover, drawing on our professional experience and knowledge, we wonder what this technological advancement might mean for our sex lives. What void would (do) these sex robots fill and do they have the potential to actually help people? Can sex with a [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:10:08+00:00 October 17th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

What If She’s Busy?

  I live in a city, full of ambitious city people. Most of my clients are ambitious city people who want to have vibrant careers and smokin’ hot love lives.   It’s no surprise then that a question I get asked in my practice - A LOT - is:   Sarah, I met this woman and she’s great! We’ve been on a couple of dates, got on really well, and I really like her. But, I’ve asked to set up another date a few times now and she keeps saying “I’m busy.”   I’ve done everything you said - I suggested a day to meet, a time, and something to do, and same response. What gives? Is she really busy?   I decided to make a YouTube video about this and address this one head on, [...]

By | 2018-10-24T12:10:26+00:00 October 15th, 2018|Youtube|0 Comments
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