Dating Advice That Will Ruin Your Sex Life

Much of the dating advice we come across (both online and offline) these days also involves dealing with the topic of sex and intimacy. Unfortunately,even if we give it the benefit of doubt and assume it is well-intentioned, a lot of the advice we see is inaccurate and can have a lasting negative impact on our relationships and sex life. Advice that is based on myths, false assumptions, harmful gender stereotypes, and general sex-negativity can have a lasting impact on how we approach intimacy and as sex professionals, Dr. Valeria and I often see the result of following this advice in the clients that seek our help. For this reason we recorded an episode where we address five types of problematic dating advice out there and explain why following it not only won’t help you have good [...]

By | 2019-02-12T15:15:18+00:00 February 13th, 2019|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Awesome Anal Sex: 5 Advanced Tips

Did you enjoy our previous episode on the basics of anal sex? If you haven't had a chance to listen to it yet, make sure to check it out first - it's a must-listen for anyone interested in exploring anal pleasure and a great introduction to this episode!Today we're back with a second episode dedicated to anal pleasure. In episode 54 of the Get Sex Smart podcast Dr. Valeria and I share our top 5 advanced tips and techniques that will help you kick things up a notch and get even more fun and pleasure out of your experience. Ready to dig in and take your anal sex skills to the next level?By listening to this episode you will learn: Everything you need to know about annalingus - including hygiene, safety and why it can be [...]

By | 2019-02-05T23:48:49+00:00 February 6th, 2019|Podcast|0 Comments

What to Do When Embarrassing or Weird Stuff Happens During Sex

It's safe to say that sooner or later every sexually active person will experience something weird or embarrassing happen during sex. When we start doing stuff with our bodies, the strange and unexpected can happen - it's just one of those facts of life. What we can do is prepare ourselves for it and learn how to take such situations in stride and ensure that no participant is left feeling ashamed or uncomfortable. Farting, queafing, accidentally damaging objects or injuring your partner - all of these things can and do happen. But why not make feeling mortified about them a thing of the past? In Episode 49 of the Get Sex Smart podcast, Dr. Valeria and I share some of the many things that can happen (and often have happened to us) during sex in an [...]

By | 2019-02-05T23:50:33+00:00 January 30th, 2019|Podcast|0 Comments

Anal Sex: How to Do It Right and Have Fun

In the age of easily accessible internet porn, anal sex has become fairly commonplace. It is no longer considered niche either, as growing numbers of people add it to their bedroom menus. Still the taboos and myths surrounding anal sex continue to persist, making it harder to find reliable information and tips for those of us who want to dip their toe in the world of backdoor pleasures. Since without proper preparation and knowledge anal sex easily turn into an unpleasant experience, we decided to give it some special attention in our Get Sex Smart podcast. In this first episode (of many) dedicated to the art and science of anal sex, Dr. Valeria and I share some general tips and strategies on how to do anal play and anal sex right and have a great experience. [...]

By | 2019-01-23T15:01:21+00:00 January 23rd, 2019|Podcast|0 Comments

Sexuality Professions and How to Find the Right One to Help You

We've already discussed the ins and outs of working as a sex coach in one of our previous podcasts (be sure to give it a listen if you haven't already), but what about other professionals working in the realm of human sexuality? From therapists to coaches to researchers, the list of professions aimed at improving people's sex lives is long. But if you are not familiar with this field, all the different terms, niches and specialties can get a bit confusing and overwhelming. So for those of you who want to seek professional help with your sexual concerns but don't quite know where to start, Dr. Valeria and I created an episode that can serve as an overview of all the different professionals who might help in this area as well as provide some valuable tips [...]

By | 2019-02-05T23:50:46+00:00 January 16th, 2019|Podcast|0 Comments

Five Mistakes Men Make When Giving Women Oral Sex (and How to Fix Them)

How is the new year treating you, folks? Dr. Valeria and I are here to help you start this new year with a bang (pun intended) by fine-tuning your oral sex skills. Most sexually active people, regardless of their gender and orientation, enjoy receiving oral sex. However, especially in the case of "heterosexual" couples, pleasuring the woman orally often ends up being relegated to the role of foreplay instead of being treated as the main event itself. This can create pressure on the woman and shift the focus away from her pleasure. To avoid this, tune in to the first episode of our Get Sex-Smart: Oral Sex series as we discuss the five most common mistakes men makes when it comes to orally pleasuring women (or more generally - people with vulvas). By listening to this episode [...]

By | 2019-01-08T19:26:08+00:00 January 9th, 2019|Podcast|0 Comments

Tips for a Great Morning After

Often when searching for dating advice, we focus first and foremost on getting a date and making a great impression on the date itself. While this makes perfect sense, it is important to remember that the next day won't just take care of itself and plan for what happens after the date as well. The morning after sex can not only make or break the night before - it is also the point at which expectations and boundaries for the future need to be set. Was it just a one-night-stand or something more? Do you want to see each other again and if so then on what terms? Regardless of how serious the night before was for you, morning-after etiquette is important and how we treat the people we have sex with speaks volumes about us. [...]

By | 2018-12-19T23:59:04+00:00 December 19th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

What It’s Like to Be a Sexologist: Behind the Scenes

  Have you ever wondered about what it's like to be a sexologist? How is being a sexologist or a any other sexuality professional (sex coach, sex therapist) in general differ from other types of therapists and healthcare professionals? Does being a sexologist mean you have a crazy and kinky sex life? How can this job affect your dating experiences?   The time has come for something a little bit different from the usual Get Sex Smart podcast episode. This time Dr. Valeria and I decided to tell you everything there is to know... about our job.   Tune in as we discuss all there is to know about our line of work - the good, the bad, and the ugly. In Episode 39 you will get a behind-the-scenes look at the joys and challenges we [...]

By | 2018-12-11T18:44:58+00:00 December 12th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

Privacy and Sexual Shame: What Dating Site Hacks Have Taught Us

Hacks and cyber crime seem to be par for the course these days. In recent years, two major attacks on big dating sites impacted hundreds of millions of people: the AshleyMadison.com hack in 2015, and the AdultFriendFinder.com hack in 2016. Both attacks had dire consequences for the people exposed, with a wave of divorces and even some users' lives being put at risk (in the case of Ashley Madison). They also started a serious discussion of the security of such sites. But the case of dating site hacks is not just a lesson about cyber-security - it can also provide interesting insight on sexual shame within our society. Watching the fallout of these attacks inspired Dr. Valeria and I to make an episode specifically about this issue. In Episode 37 of the Get Sex Smart podcast, we [...]

By | 2018-12-06T10:50:13+00:00 December 6th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments

When to Start Having Sex in a New Relationship

Often when we enter a new romantic relationship, we start getting anxious about the many decisions we must make. One of the biggest decisions revolves around sex - when is the right time to start having sex with a new partner? Both offline and online we can find countless "golden rules" that try to give a universal answer to this question. If you are based in the US, you've probably heard of the 3 date (or 5 date) rule. Such arbitrary rules can only make this process more confusing than it needs to be. Additionally, they can create pressure on us to conform to them while ignoring our gut feelings, desires, and boundaries. For instance, someone who wants to have sex on the first date may wait out of fear of being deemed "easy", while someone [...]

By | 2018-11-27T22:26:27+00:00 November 28th, 2018|Podcast|0 Comments
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